External validation: 4 reasons why and when it’s okay.
“True confidence is knowing that you alone are enough, without the need for anyone else’s validation”.
How many times have you heard this? How bad are we taught to feel when we find ourselves vying for external validation?
The western culture is obsessed with individualism, it took us so far down the spectrum, we now claim individual validation is all we need.
Today, I want to break this myth.
Is it ok to get external validation? Or is it only internal validation we should be seeking? What of this myth we believe is true, and what did our beliefs make us forget to notice?
Can you love yourself yet also validate this love from others?
Is it either/or, or both/and?
Talk to yourself with love.
What is the language of love? It is the language of someone loving us.
What we forget is, we are loved by others before we love ourselves — whether it is your parents [if you are fortunate to be born in a loving home] or otherwise, you learn love through others’ love for you.
It is arrogant of us to ignore this genesis, and believe we can simply love ourselves without the need for anyone else’s love first.
